Disagreeing with someone’s choices or actions doesn’t mean you hate them. Agreeing with someone’s choices or actions doesn’t mean you love them. Think about the complex relationships you have around you: your best friend, your spouse/partner, your parents, your siblings. I can guarantee you I don’t agree with everything all of those people in my life do, nor do they for me. But that doesn’t change how I feel about them.
So why should we attack strangers for the decisions they make or the situation they find themselves in. It is not our place to decide the paths their lives should take. No two people with follow exactly the same path because no two people are exactly alike. Different upbringings, different beliefs, different situations, different locations, different ambitions, different decisions. All of these things contribute to the exact point they find themselves at any given point.
Next time you find yourself thinking negatively about someone else, whatever it may be, stop. Just take a moment to think. You don’t know what led them to this point, to this decision. You have a choice: be citical or be compassionate. Though I don’t always choose wisely, I try to always be compassionate. It is what I would want others to do for me.
Just think about it. Which would you rather choose to put out in the world?